Category Archives for Relationships

Hi, further to your article on building trust, I wanted to know if it is really practical that somebody who has broken someone’s trust will admit it and are the relations strong now-a-days that somebody actually does it. I don’t want the one who has broken my trust to say sorry or admit his/her mistake. I want my relations with him/her to be so trustworthy that the person can freely tell me about the fact and make me understand the situation.

Coming upon the first point; of admitting after breaking someone’s trust; here all I can say is, that it solely depends on that person whether he/she wants to come ahead and confess it or not. That again depends on the ideology and the viewpoint of that person. Someone who is really truthful with his conscience […]

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How To Deal With A Conflict With Parents?

How To Deal With A Conflict With Parents?

Most of you who are reading this article will find themselves at home because they have at some stage in life gone through phase where they have entered into an argument or a conflict with their parents. We can take the examples of the smallest incidents right from sitting at the dining table for the […]

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How To Deal With The Difficult Behaviour of Family Members?

One of my readers posted a question where she mentioned that she is going through a tough time dealing with her husband’s family. She finds it tough to get along with the family members not because of her own attitude but because her in-laws and other relatives do not like her much and thus have […]

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I have a sibling who is much more intelligent and smart than I am. Somewhere I feel I’m getting overshadowed by his achievements and success. What should be my ideology so that I can deal with such a feeling in a positive manner?

The problem which you have described has become a common one nowadays wherein one child feels that he/she is getting overshadowed by the other child’s achievements and success. With arousal of such feelings and flowing away in this current, bitterness and hatred starts taking place within the minds of individuals which eventually results into conflicts […]

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Hi NRJ, actually my friend is going through her tough times. Her best friend is not in good contact with her since 5-6 months or more. Her best friend is currently working in Bangalore. Her friend comes to Mumbai to meet other friends and doesn’t tell her about the plans. So she’s quite upset about it. She shared her prob with me. I don’t know her friend that well. Should I contact her and make her realize what my friend is going through?

After hearing your situation, I would suggest that it would be much better if your friend could discuss this issue with her best friend who stays in Bangalore. The reason why I am saying this is because you have mentioned that you do not know your friend’s friend very well. Hence there are different possibilities […]

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I desired good for a very close friend, but I got to know that things turned down in a bad way. I intended to help her, but unknowingly I messed up the things. She is unaware that I am the reason behind this entire blunder. I am really feeling very guilty now and wish to confront my friend with the truth, but I am scared as things can become worse.

I really feel that whether you are scared or whatever is the reason, you must confront your friend and let her know that things have messed up because of you. I know it is difficult. Also I understand that your intentions were true and you, in no way, wanted your friend to face such a […]

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At many instances, I get annoyed and find it hard to get along with my dad. This could be due to his general behaviour or habits which I find as inappropriate. I really need to get over this feeling of mine. How can I work upon settling down things and coming up more positively?

Good that you understand that you are walking on the wrong path. In this case I feel that you just need to make up your mind to adjust with situations. To settle out this issue, you can work upon yourself in the following 2 steps: You need to learn to compromise Clear away the bitterness […]

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One of my close friends has invited me to his party. At that party, there will be some other people too whom I don’t like or with whom I am unable to make up. Should I attend the party even in that case?

Yes, I’ll say you must. There is no reason that you should skip it. Your friend has given a party for a purpose; for involving all his friends in his celebration. If you look from your friend’s point of view, if he invites you and avoids those other people whom you don’t like, then it […]

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My brother is 20 years old and is very demanding. He is mature and understanding but sometimes when it comes to his enjoyment, he fails to understand the criticality of the situations and prioritizes it above everything else. Many a time, I get annoyed when my parents give him whatever he asks for. I have tried to explain him many times, but he doesn’t understand. What approach should I take?

Your brother is just 20 years old as you have mentioned, and truly speaking, most of the children in this age have such an attitude. I am not criticizing him. It is common that the younger sibling is always more pampered compared to the elder one and because of that he/she gets used to it. […]

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How can I improve my relation with my father? I feel that a distance has developed in our relationship.

To improve your relationship with your father, you need to analyze the reasons why the distance has occurred. Issues of distant relationships between child and one of the parents are becoming a common one today. The reason that I see is the lack of communication between the two of them. Also, the lifestyle that many […]

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My wife expressed her idea of she and I separating out from my parents. The reason for this is that she is educated and is working full-time and is afraid of being unable to adjust. What should be my approach towards solving this problem?

Such a problem is a common one in today’s families. And I don’t think it is wicked on your wife’s part. Like your wife, many girls have their own ambitions and want to achieve something for themselves. They want to make themselves independent. I am not saying that it is wrong. Every individual must be […]

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My brother who is 2 years younger to me has decided to enter a new venture and we were having a discussion about that. Soon the discussion turned into a fierce argument due to conflicts in our thinking with regards to the scope of this new idea. I do not want him to get into difficult situations in future. Also our relation is more important than this idea. What should be my take on this?

Good to hear that you did not let that bitterness overcome you. As an elder brother, it’s your responsibility to let go of whatever your brother must have told you or in whichever way he must have behaved with you. He is younger to you and might not be able to handle such situations sportingly. […]

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Is it really that important to be expressive and speak it out to our parents, our best friends, to our loved ones, to the people who actually matter to us, that yes they really mean a lot ?

The answer to this question, according to me, is quite subjective one. What applies to you might not be the case with someone else. Whether you must express your love and care towards someone or not depends on how healthy your relationship with that person is. Some cases are such where you are so friendly […]

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Hi! I am a 25 years old girl and currently I’m working. One of my colleagues at work and I had been best friends for almost 10 years. Recently, I somewhat started feeling that she is trying to avoid me. Our conversation with each other has also reduced to a great extent. She doesn’t say anything directly but it reflects in her behaviour. I do not want to lose an old friend like this. How should I tackle this out?

It’s really sad to know that your 10 years old friendship has come to such a stage. Look, you have mentioned that slowly-slowly you started feeling that she is trying to avoid you or staying away from you. I feel the first thing you must do is approach her and calmly and positively ask her […]

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Hello NRJ! Yesterday, one of my close friends told me some things about my girlfriend. She herself has never spoken to me about those. It is something related to her past. I don’t know how to react to this situation. I need some advice on what should be my take on this?

The most important thing in any relationship is trust. Relationship without trust is like a building with a weak base. It won’t last long and that is definite. Hence, I would suggest that you must trust your partner. Yes, I know that certain points have come to your knowledge through some other people. So, in […]

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Hi, I have a friend who has gone abroad for higher studies. We are best friends of each other. But, we have started losing contact with each other since the time he has gone there. I don’t know if he is trying to avoid me or what is it. Please suggest.

If you are saying that your friend and you are best friends of each other, then such small points should not bother you. You must rather understand your friend’s situation. As you said, he has gone abroad for pursuing higher education. Over there he has other priorities for himself.  When he was in his hometown, […]

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Hi, I am a house wife. My mother-in law and I understand each other very well, but everyday while going on with day-to-day household tasks, I get into arguments and quarrels with her. I feel uneasy after going through all this. I do not want to spoil my relationship with her. Please suggest on what can be done?

Here you have mentioned that you both understand each other. But on the contrary, I feel that you still need to give some time and think over it. Look, such quarrels and fights are common in most of the families. They are a part and parcel of life. In most of the scenarios, the reasons […]

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Hi, I am 19 years old Commerce student. I seem to like a girl who is a really close friend of mine. I don’t know whether it is just an attraction or I actually like her. I am confused and need to understand whether I should be getting into a relationship with her or not. Also, I want to equally focus on my career without affecting it at any cost. Request your guidance.

Look, since you have made this point that you are not sure whether you really like that girl or not, I would say that you need to give time to yourself and even her. In teenage, it is very common that you get attracted towards someone on basis of physical attraction. Also, it could be […]

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Hi! Few days back, I was having lunch with three people whom I respect and admire. There they all started criticizing a close friend of mine, not knowing she is my friend. The criticism was distasteful and unjustified. What should I do in this situation?

Hey there! I get your situation. I know it must have been a really unsettling and an uneasy situation for you. Now, I would first come to the point that you have made that those 3 people are someone whom you respect and admire a lot. After this conversation that they all got indulged into, […]

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