Every day we come across situations where we tend to lose our temper on someone, where we get angry on some or the other action or point made by someone else. We very well know the feeling that we go through post that anger or such a situation. It makes us restless and uneasy. We do not feel like talking to anyone. Even if someone approaches us, we are not ready to take it positively. Our anger has by then overcome us. Below are a few ways in which one can overcome his/her anger.
Once you have crossed your limits and thrown your wrath on someone, give some time to yourself. Cool down and sit aside. Think about the entire situation in a positive manner somewhat on these lines. It is not about whether you were right or you were wrong. The main point that came to the centre is that you lost your temper and probably you have created a negative impression in the mind of the opposite person. Look, you need to explain yourself that there was no need to get angry. Anger will only worsen the situation. There is always a solution to every problem and the solution can be reached by talking and explaining your part to the opposite person in a cool and calm way. This will help you put down your ego and talk to the opposite person in more friendly and better way.
This is a very effective way to control your anger. If you feel that the opposite person is not willing to understand you or listen to you, drop the issue right there. Look upon to them kindly and in a humble manner. Now, it is very important that you do this with a positive attitude. It should not happen that OK, you have left it completely and you allow the opposite person to just go and do whatever he/she want to. The suggestion that I making in this point emphasizes that in case the opposite person realises his mistake, then you should be ready to help him out of that situation without letting your ego overcome you with the thought that “Why should I help him today ?” Such an attitude will help you not only control your anger but even help you develop a generous and a caring nature.
It is very important that before you lose temper, you give a thought to other persons’ point of view. You never know, may be the point that he is making might be beneficial for you and could be more feasible at that situation. By giving importance to their thoughts and opinions, you are portraying a broader mindset of your own self. Your positive approach will inspire that other person to understand your thoughts too and he would give due importance and consideration to your suggestions.
It is one of the major reasons due to which most of us tend to get angry on others. We have built some or the other expectations from every person around us. When that expectation doesn’t get fulfilled, we feel offended and retaliate in form of anger. So, whose fault is it then? When I say do not expect anything from others, one need to be careful while framing this thought in the mind. It is a very delicate thought which if taken in a negative sense can ruin your attitude in many ways. What I mean is that you need to develop a neutral attitude towards things. If someone helps you in your tasks, then it’s good. You need to show your gratitude towards that person. But tomorrow if the same person does not take a step forward to help you, then that does not mean you develop that bitterness in yourself. It’s OK. You must take it positively and have the same caring attitude towards that person. You really do not know why the other person did not offer you a helping hand. And even if it was done purposely, then just let it go. Why should you let those negative feelings overcome you? you should still wish him the best for his work.
Meditation is an important exercise to control your anger. It will help you come closer to your inner self who is a full of peace, love and happiness. When you feel that peace from within, you automatically tend to follow the above mentioned points and that happens on its own; you need not even try it or practise it. You will stop yourself from falling in situations which could hurt others, or which could make you angry. You will not only think of yourself but even give consideration to others’ feelings.
All the above points that I have discussed, need sufficient practise and dedication and a will to control your anger before it controls you. Look, life is short, and anger, hatred and such other feelings should have no place in this life. We should constantly make an effort to replace these feelings with love, peace, kindness and positivity which are the real treasure of our soul.